5 Lessons I’ve Learned About Silver Hair Care



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Ladies, there is a silver hair movement going on! Everyday I am so motivated by the comments I receive from women who say I inspire them or give them the courage to finally go grey. It has made me realize just how important it is to change the narrative around silver hair. For anyone out there with doubts let me be the one to tell you: Silver hair is BEAUTIFUL. Silver hair is SEXY. I have rocked my silver curls my entire adult life and I am also here to assure you that having grey hair doesn’t make you old. The reality is, the ability to feel beautiful, sexy, and youthful doesn’t come from the color of your hair. It comes from being confident in yourself.

Now I get that it’s a lot easier to feel confident when your white hair is on point, so let me share with you the biggest lessons I’ve learned about silver hair care over nearly 20 years.

5 Lessons I’ve Learned About Silver Hair Care

  1.    Clean Hair Products

I refuse to use anything less than clean hair products in my silver hair care routine. So what does it mean to be clean? At minimum, the products should be free of harmful chemicals like sulfates, parabens, formaldehydes, and mineral oils that are not only harmful to your scalp and body, but also strip your hair of natural oils that are critical to the health of your white hair. Recently, The Mane Choice sent me over their Ancient Egyptian collection to try.

The Mane Choice Ancient Egyptian CollectionYou all know how much I love finding products made from natural ingredients. Well this collection lives up to my expectations and more. Not only is this collection free of all of the harmful ingredients I avoid, but they also contain natural ingredients like aloe vera, coconut oil, honey, and sunflower oil. Even better yet, the products are vitamin infused with important ingredients like vitamin A, biotin, vitamin B5, vitamin C, vitamin D, and vitamin E to name a few. It’s like a multi vitamin for your hair! After using this line for several weeks, I’m happy to say that my silver curls are super hydrated and nicely defined.

  1.    How to Prevent Yellowing

The most frequently asked question I get from my silver hair sisters is, “how do you prevent your white hair from turning yellow?” It took me years to learn and accept this lesson, but the single most important way to prevent yellowing is to avoid heat styling. I know how impossible that sounds, but trust me your hair will never look better.

Silver Hair CareOnce I stopped using my curling iron and began diffusing my hair on low heat settings, I noticed my silver hair was dramatically healthier with no more yellowing. And don’t even get my started on my curl definition. In addition to avoiding heat, it’s extra important to keep white hair hydrated during styling which is why I love using the Mane Choice deep conditioning Ancient Egyptian Hair Mask followed up with the Ancient Egyptian Cuticle Control Leave-In Lotion. These products give my hair the extra hydration it needs before low-heat styling. The Mane Choice Ancient Egyptian Hair Mask

  1.    The Truth About Purple Shampoo

I’m also often asked whether I use and recommend purple shampoo. The answer to that question is “no”. Surprising right? Now that’s not to say I haven’t tried purple shampoos. I have actually tried several top brands over the years and the results were all the same – not good. While these shampoos did help prevent yellowing, I found that they also left my curls completely dried out. So much so that purple shampoos were ruining my curl pattern. Obviously, they had to go!

  1.    Healthy Diet Promotes Healthy Silver Hair

I know it’s cliché but you are what you eat. Did you know scientists can analyze your hair and detect your dietary habits and health? Just like your skin, your hair will look its best when you are staying hydrated and eating healthy foods. That’s why a whole food plant based diet full of healthy fats like avocado, nuts, olive oil, and coconut is an essential part of my whole body care.

  1.    Scalp Massages

An important ritual for me in my silver hair care routine is a weekly 10 minute scalp massage. These days I like to give myself a scalp massage while watching TV with my husband at night. It doesn’t leave my hair greasy so I’ll usually wash my hair the next morning.

The Mane Choice Growth Oil for Silver Hair CareNot only do scalp massages feel a-mazing but they also promote blood circulation and sebum oil production. Have you ever wondered why the texture of your grey hair is different than your non-grey hair? As you age, your oil glands produce less sebum oil resulting in drier, rough textured hair. I highly recommend using the The Mane Choice Growth Oil for your scalp massages. 

The Mane Choice Growth OilFirst of all, the citrus scent is so lovely! But most importantly, it’s packed with natural ingredients like almond oil, rosemary extract, sunflower oil, tea tree oil, aloe vera, grapeseed oil, and jojoba oil. The Growth Oil leaves my scalp feeling warm, tingly, and invigorated and I must say – I absolutely love it. I’ve already noticed an improvement in my hair texture and I’m so excited to continue using the product long term. 

As you can probably tell, proper silver hair care using natural products is something that I’m really passionate about. For me it’s part of a larger process of self care and embracing my uniqueness. No matter where you are in your silver hair journey – salt and pepper, grombre, or full on silver hair, I hope embracing your natural silver hair has given you a new level of confidence in your authentic self. As always, thanks for following along! Before you leave, please share some comments below about your silver hair journey.

  1. Christine says:

    Yassss!! Love this message! I just started growing my white hair out and I can only hope I will look half as beautiful as yours. Thanks for the inspiration ????

  2. Marnette says:

    Your hair is gorgeous – I just wish my hair would gray all over light yours. You are beautiful inside and out. I recently ran across you on IG through Deva Curl IG.

    • Tennille says:

      Give it time babe and you will get your wish! The grey you see on me is nearly 20 years of greying.Thanks so much for your sweet comments. I’m so thrilled you found me! ❤️❤️❤️

  3. Katrina Boykins says:

    Thank you for this blog. I’m so happy to find conversations taking place on how beautiful grey hair is. I love my grey.

  4. Sheila Smith says:

    I keep reading your recommendations over and over and I have a question on the shampoo & conditioner you are using for your beautiful silver hair. Please let me know, I want to purchase tomorrow…

    God bless

  5. Marsha Stone says:

    Hello beautiful, I have short gray hair for over 12 years. Started my natural Hair journey a year ago. I use the Shimmery lights shampoo. What shampoo do you use? My Gray hair Is dry I use TGIN Butter cream daily moisturizer, Great moisturizers for my Gray hair. Use daily. Still learning about my natural hair which products is Best for my hair texture.

    • Stephanie E CRAWFORD says:

      I’ve dyed my hair years…Now that I have gone natural..I’m not dying any more. I’ll be 60 in a few months and really want a change up..My hair is thick n full..what do you suggest?

  6. Carlina says:

    Awesomeness!:) I am so done w/dying, trying and hiding (pun intended:). You Sis ,are living proof that silver strands can be all that Glamour, Beauty and Sexy are wrapped up to be no matter the age.

    • Tennille says:

      You’re absolutely right Carlina…Silver hair is beautiful, sexy and glamorous! I’m so happy for you and your new journey … embracing your grey hair is so liberating!!

  7. […] and  clarify my hair 1-2 times per month. I don’t use any hair products specifically for silver hair care, instead I focus on products that are moisturizing for my […]

  8. Amelia Warner says:

    I have very soft hair.I am in my 70’s with gray very thin hair. i am loosing my hair by the hand full. i dont know if you have any advice. I use Black castroil condition and shampoo.

  9. Lisa says:

    Hello my name is Lisa johnson and I’m very glad to find someone with the same type of hair as I do….my problem is that my hair sheds slot and it’s very very dry..And I haven’t had it trim in about 5 to 6 years, so my question is what can I do to get the moisture back….u can look me up on FB…

  10. Gwen Shelton says:

    Your hair is beautiful. I’m in the process of letting my gray come out. I live in Northern California. Where can I purchase?

  11. Munira says:

    I am inspired !!! Thank you very much. My silver hair will never be the same after reading from you. ❤️

  12. Diahann says:

    I am so happy to have found your YouTube channel and website! Of course, I immediately subscribed. I’ve been greying since I was 15, and I am now 48. 🙂

    I’ve always embraced my silver hair since it was a genetic trait from my mom, who is my biggest fan! Lol. I developed a fear of hair care back in May 2011 when I made the fateful mistake of using my husband’s shampoo that ruined my hair. My silver strands “grabbed” the shampoo (which was brown) and turned a shade of brown that almost drove me crazy! It was painful!

    Since then, I have not ventured to wash my hair at home. I found a hairdresser who knew how to handle silver hair because I (painfully) learnt over the years that not many do. I typically used a relaxer in my hair (to straighten it) and, of course, that caused yellowing. So, the hairdresser used a yellow-out conditioner to counter it. It worked. However, I continued to find that my hair was not completely silver. The strands started to have a tint that I did not like. By the way, I hated the silver shades too!

    I have since transitioned to wearing braids (that match my salt-and-pepper look), and have been confusing many persons who figure I am too young to have greys because they cannot see where my hair ends and where the braids start. lol

    Your hair is an inspiration for me! However, I have a major concern. My natural hair does NOT have curls, and I am thinking that transitioning to natural hair, it will look somewhat dead–if you know what I mean. I don’t know if I will have the volume/bounce/curls that will make my hair look alive. I would really like to move from relaxing my hair–which I haven’t done since late 2018. I have been braiding it (with the extensions), but would quickly transition to natural hair if I have the right products because that is what is really important to me.

    As a matter of fact, I think I need to make that move as soon as possible because the thought of going to the hairdresser during this COVID-19 era is not on. In fact, I postponed my appointment that I had yesterday (April 20) to redo my hair. I’ve elected to stay home. I will use hair wraps, if necessary, for my rare trips for food hauls.

    Can I talk with you? I would love to connect and hope you don’t mind. Sending you some love from Kingston, Jamaica.

  13. Maria G. says:

    I am 49 and I decided two months ago to stop dying my hair. Let’s see how long that lasts! Do you have any advice fo someone like me that has made the decision and doesn’t know where to begin? I only have a few inches of new growth and the rest of my natural hair reaches my waist. I feel like this is such an awkward stage. Help! By the way you and your daughters are beautiful! You look like a 25 yr old woman that just happens to have silver hair.

  14. Stella Fitzpatrick says:

    Hi Sista,

    I absolutely love you hair and your skin. Beautiful

    Ms. Stella

  15. Edna says:

    Loved your YouTube VideoWhat type of hair dryer did you use

  16. Mae Minter says:

    I agree that a silver mane is beautiful and that for years we have been using toxic & harmful chemicals to avoid gray hair. Now is the time to brace your beautiful gray hair & read articles like yours for ways to make our gray shine & remain healthy. Thank you.

  17. Haralda says:

    This pandemic is making .me realize the things i need and do not need. I color my hair about every 12 weeks and i often wear braid. I call my gray glitter. Long story short. I am tired of the dyes. Yet. I am 52 and always feared that great hair makes you look old. Per generational curse. I haven’t had color since Dec 31. And July is in 3 days. And i have no desire to go in a shop. So i am thinking itstime to embrace my gray. I am n done what afraid. But curious. I love the look on others. But afraid of on me. I have natural curly hair. But have relaxed over the years. I haven’t had a relaxers in at least 7 years. I think. I am ready…thank you

  18. RACHELL A. COLLINS says:

    Hello I absolutely loved this video, her hair is gourgeous, Thank You so much for introducing these products.

  19. Anna Hudson says:

    If I had to picture Eve she would look just like you. Your personality, sharing, giving, genuineness and of course beautiful skin and hair. Who could have made such perfect beauty? No one but the Heavenly Father. I’m 68 years old and thank The Heavenly Father for my being here because today alot of people don’t make it to 20. Getting back to hair my gray is coming in very prevelant on sides and lower back, very wild so not even the holding gels will control it. I have very fine textured hair, starting to see thin temples and on crown. I don’t use any hair coloring at all so would like to know how I can control this mane. Thanks so much for your wisdom. You are a great inspiration especially in this time.

  20. I have been going grey now for about 9 months but I was grey in my 20’s and I start dyeing my hair a lot but I have gotten tired of that but I need be to able grow it fast.

  21. Mable Wilson says:

    I’m Loving your Silver hair.Im trying my best to get my grey hair silver…

  22. Barbara Guthrie says:

    Dear Tennille
    Thanks you for sharing such valuable information on white hair.
    I have been in turmoil for a long time on weather to embrace my white hair or to continue to colour my hair. You have helped me to make up my mind and embrace my white hair, thanks so much!
    I would like to try all The Mane Choice Egyptian Line you mentioned, but you did not recommend a shampoo. Can you recommend which one to use please.
    I live in the UK and hope I’ll be able to find these here.
    Thanks again for sharing
    Kind regards
    Barbara Guthrie

  23. Angela R Green says:

    Your silver is gorgeous. I must say you wear it very well. I’m approaching 50 and have just managed to see maybe two strands of silver. However don’t think I’m going to have a sprout of it so fast. My mother is 69 and she has a few strands in various places throughout her hair. I think genetics plays a role, because my grandmother who was 76 years old when she passed away only had a few strands of grey. So if I live to be at least 76 I may or may not have silver hair. I think it is so beautiful, but everybody can’t pull it off.

  24. Hello i would like to know which product do you like better Main chive or Naughty hair care?

  25. Ciska says:

    I have grey hair. My grey hair get yellow when I am on holiday in tropical warm country.
    With other words the sun makes my hair turn yellow.
    By the way I am not ironing my hair when I am on holiday in those warm countries.

    Any suggestions for me what to do please?


  26. Tracy Russell says:

    Hi Tennille! Great info. I been mingle Grey for over 4 yrs now. Would like to try the products but not sure which to use. There are several. My scalp is dry. If I don’t wash on the regular and not use a dandruff shampoo, I’ll have flakes. Let me know what you suggest. I LOVE YOUR HAIR TOO. Thanks

  27. Angela Roberson says:

    I need help with find sliver gray hair and my growth.. thanks for your help,

  28. S Jones says:

    I’m now 43 and just decided during the covid hibernation to stop coloring my hair. I got my first gray string around the age of 15. Doctors said it was due to Vit D deficiency. I haven’t colored my hair in over 6 months, my natural hair is so much happier. The gray is growing on me now but at first I was tempted to color it. I’m working on eating better, and wearing it natural more, since I love to blow it out and do a lite press. Thank you for sharing your story and journey. You are an inspiration and your hair is beautiful!!

  29. Evelyn White says:

    Hello I love your hair. I am just starting to embrace my gray hair. It’s coming in around my edges and I have a perm . I do want to go natural but wanted to know if I should wait . Any thoughts ?

  30. Carm says:

    So I’ve been watching your beautiful pics for nearly a year now and I am finally giving in to letting these colors go and embracing my grey. Thanks for the tips and honest remarks on products. I recently had a surgery and now taking some medications that may impede on my growth process, do you recommend anything? I look forward to nothing but progress from this point on.

    Thanks again…

  31. Bernita says:

    Is this product all natural, I have alopecia and some products sets my scalp on fire

  32. Harriet Irusa says:

    Hello, you look amazing in your silver hair. Thanks for the information on silver hair care. Where do I get the mane products in Africa?

  33. I have been natural for 12 years and I just decided to go grey about 6 months now. I got tired of coloring my hair. My grey is growing out really fast. But I do have a little brownish color mixed in my grey. And I do get a blowout still. Which I like, but you was saying heat is contributing to the yellow. Any other suggestions to help prevent that.

  34. Sherella says:

    Thank you. My natural hair, around the edges, began to grey in about a year or so ago. I tried the dye, but it broke off my black hair and didn’t do anything to my grey hair 😂. Over the past few months I’ve tried to hide my grey, but my Pastor told me to just embrace it ~ so, here goes! Thanks for the encouragement ☺️.

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